July 30th, 2010 - So what do you do when Mr. Maybe, just may be Mr. Right or when Mr. Right turns out to be Mr. Wrong, or when Mr.I Don't Know, turns out to be Mr. I sooo hope so. This whole dating game reminds me of House Hunters, the TV show.
You meet a guy and think this is so not the one, and then he does something so incredible nice, or says something so intelligent or caring, and you say he might be the one, just not yet. But he could be the one. Or you meet, this guy who is so handsome and suave he is definitely the one, he must be the one, and then he opens his mouth and has a voice like a cartoon character and a brian about the size of a pea, on a good day. So how do you get all the things you are looking for in one person? Just like house hunting, you need to make a list of the, must have's, the nice to have's, and the deal breakers. And with that said, you still need to be able to compromise and make sure that what you are saying you really want is what you mean because you might get it and it might, so not be, what you really meant. And oh, and did I mention, that while you are going through the list and checking off your items, he or they (if you are so lucky to have multiple suitors) are going through their list and doing the same thing. Not a problem, I think I am realistic about myself, I am sure the good things about me will out weigh the not so good things about me. But Still I wasn't overly thrilled when one guy told me, as he was smiling, "I told my friend you were not gorgeous or drop dead beautiful, but you are really cute". "Oh yeah?" I am thinking, "Really cute, is that the best you can say". I quickly retort back with, "I know what you mean, when my friend asked if you were handsome", I said, "well he is really nice." I am thinking to myself, score is even.
So what I have learned is to cut myself a little slack. No one is perfect, and everyone will have something you don't like, if that is what you spend your time looking for. So lighten up, must be six foot two or taller, might be ok , if he is only five foot ten or eight, if he has an incredibly great personality. And must be in great shape can be a few pounds extra if he is so funny your sides ache from laughing so hard. And even must speak English, can stay on the list, if the language they speak is French, they have dark wavy hair, deep blue eyes, a suntan like a God, and a well defined six pack on his abs. I mean the whole thing is about compromise, right?
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