June 7th, 2010 - So, the time has come, I am finally considering dating. Now that doesn't mean anyone is really considering dating me. Believe me when I tell you there are not hundreds of men beating down my door wanting to go out with me. It just means that if there were hundreds, or ten, or a few or anyone who wanted to date me, that I would be willing to consider that dating might be a good idea.
So how does one go about meeting new people in our new electronic age....well it seems as muched as I poo-pooed the idea, on-line dating is the way to go. I was told it is faceless, no hurt feelings, just reading through some profiles and making your selection. They made it sound like you were ordering take-out from your favorite restaurant. Place your order and it will show up in 30 minutes. Well not quite that easy. First you have to give information all about yourself. The hard part is you have to share just enough information so they might be interested, but not so much, as to give away what a really unremarkable person you really are. You need to be witty, but not silly, confident but not cocky, smart but not too intellectual, and have an ok figure but not too many extra pounds. Additionally, you must love adventure, wine tasting, dancing, spontaneous trips (don't these people work), art museums, Ravinia, be financially secure, and not have children living at home, and oh yes, and this one really set me over the top. Apparently you have to want your partner to adore you as you will adore him. I almost choked on the 'adore' your partner and want to be 'adored'. Believe me I don't want anyone to adore me, let's leave that for statues, and other treasures. People being adored...not so much. After all this, it is then necessary to post your picture..talk about a show stopper. Let's just say I am not winning any Ms. USA contests. But to be truthful, neither are many of the folks on-line searching for that special person. And the last requirement to make this very successful is to know when to hit the 'delete' key. Example: He-"hi, I read your profile and you sound like my perfect match, Do you live alone". Me-'delete'. He-"do you have any other kinds of pictures, I have some I could share". Me-'delete'. He-"I want to adore you and you adore me". Me-delete'. And my very favorite, from a man 39 years old..He-"I love your profile I am looking for a mature woman to share my life with". me-Go home to your mama, send...delete.
I thought it would be easy to do this on-line dating, but as it turns out it is not so easy. It is not really faceless, there are pictures. And the no hurt feelings part, well, I don't know rejection is rejection so there could be some hurt feelings. But mostly, it is scary to put yourself out there to explore new relationships. So bravely I am forging forward, but keeping my finger poised over the 'delete' key.
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I can't wait until to give "Speed Dating" a try, or even a singles auction. That should be really funny. Pleased try all the techniques for meeting people, so we can hear all about it!
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