The Dating Game

February 23, 2010 - As a 58 year old widow I am considering entering the 'dating game'. I same game, because it appears to be a game with it's own set of rules, and none of them are the rules I remember. In order to date in this day and age you have to be computer savvy, know how to download pictures (as no one will date someone without checking out the picture), have a way with words, so that when on line you say that ever so clever comment that makes them choose you over one million other woman, and oh yeah, you have to be able to navigate the hundreds of on-line dating services.

Let's see, there is e-harmony, Match.com, and of course Plenty of fish. That one really cracks me up, you know, like your mom always said, "there are plenty of fish in the sea". Of course, many of the fish in the sea are Loud Mouth Bass! Also there is Speed Dating, this is really a trip. The whole premise of this is to meet as many people in as short of time as possible to see if you there is a spark, a connection. How does one find a connection, when you don't say more than two words to your potential date. The only spark you are going to feel is the fire under your feet from moving so fast. Then there is the service called 'Ms. Matchmaker', what a gimmack. Reminds me of the song matchmaker matchmaker make me a match, find me a catch. Not sure how this works, where does Ms Matchmaker go to find you the match. Does she go to Match.Com. But this next one, this one I think I could connect with, Millionaire Dating. I am all over that one. It has to be just as easy to fall for a rich guy as it is to fall for a poor one. And I got a feeling the rich one will be better equiped to romance me in the manner I've alway daydreamed about. With all the services available how does one ever pick.

I thought dating was all about meeting someone at work, or in the grocery store, or a local bar, even through a friend or a friend of a friend. Turns out I was really wrong. No one meets anyone at those places or through people anymore. Nope to be hip and really be a part of the dating scene, you have to be on-line. Mister Right could live right next store, but you are not going to meet him without registering through a service. I don't know, this seems like way too much work. I am far more comfortable talking to people face to face, than I am talking to my computer. So I think I will wait a little longer, wait until the times change, again. I will wait until maybe we get back to dating being a personal thing, and not an on-line group activity.